Well, Happy New year everyone! I actually made it through the holiday without too many problems.
Christmas was quiet and relaxing, amazingly enough. The kids loved what they got, even if they didn't get much. All I got was some candles from the kids, since they knew how much I love candles, and a little bit of spending money from my mom and aunt (which went into getting the kids thier presents). Oh, and tons of Christmas cards from my online friends!! :o)
So apart from the financial side of things, I've got some serious communication problems with DH, from now on only known as H. I'm busting my chops trying to open up more and he is shutting down even more. He even suggested that we either split up, try marriage counseling, or just stay as we are. Not something I wanted to deal with during the holidays.
That was right after my last post, or about the same time. We kinda started to do more communicating as Christmas came and went, but once again we are at a communication deadlock. I don't know what else to try. He won't answer my phone calls most of the time, and get's pissed now if I text message him more than once. Last night I texted him asking what time would he come home. Of course he didn't answer, so I texted him two more times, and he finally replied around 11pm with "I was about to come home...don't you know I hate it when you do that?" and then didn't come home until after 1am. Ok, how was I supposed to know that he hated when I "bothered" him with text messages, when he doesn't talk to me at all? I've told him many times that I wouldn't get mad about him being out so much if only he would answer his phone and tell me the truth about when he will be home or where he is. He is always saying something like, "I'm outside, I'll be there in a sec." or "I'll be home in a minute, I had to go to the store." He hangs out with people who drink to get drunk, do drugs, smoke marijuana, and he claims that he doesn't do any of that stuff. Well, what am I supposed to think when he doesn't come home until anywhere between 1am and 8am??
I've actually started keeping track of how many times he does that, since he claims that he only does that once in a blue moon. Since January 1, he has come home after 1am 6 times. Today is the 11th. What does that tell you?
I'm too exausted to type anymore tonight, but I will continue to write about this newest saga in a couple of days.
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