Monday, July 30, 2012

Who would have thought?

I never had the time to sit back and reflect on my life over the last 15 years until I had no computer, no cable, and no internet.

Well, so far I've had a week to reflect and I've made suprising reflections. The most important is that 15 years of being with one person really closed my mind to what is out there.  Like the song by Kris Allen says "we gotta live like we're dying..." I think I was dead for 15 years sadly... that's a huge surprise to discover.

If I was dead for 15 years, then these last 9 months have been a sort of gestation period for me to be reborn into a new human being, and I was finally born a week ago. And in this new week of life I have found some new things to keep me excited and looking forward to what other surprises await me.

I have a new awareness that I hadn't had before. I have noticed fairly subtle things that I hope are hints of what's to come. One thing I figured out is to trust my instincts as much as possible. Like today- SOMETHING compelled me to leave the house early and stop by the coffee shop. Was it fate? Or was it purely luck? It just so happened to be that a friend was there this morning as well, and I'm pretty sure this friend doesn't usually hang out in the coffee shop at 8:45am :o) I enjoyed this friends presence for over a hour as we chatted about everything and nothing in particular. When my alarm went off to tell me it was time to get to the bus to get to work, I reluctantly left, but not before saying that we should chat again sometime soon. I'll leave it up to my friend if that will happen, but I feel strongly that there may be more to this than a chance encounter. Call it my newborn senses, lol. I actually had butterflies when I arrived at the coffee shop and saw my friend sitting there :o)

Ok, gonna leave you with a quote of lyrics from my favorite song right now "Everything" by Lifehouse...

"And how can I stand here with you and not be moved by you? Would you tell me how could it be anything better than this?" :o)

Sunday, July 08, 2012

I don't know what to do anymore

Every step forward I take I get shoved backwards 5 steps. I cannot make progress towards anything. :o(
My own father will not emotionally support me at all, and is not able to financially support me to the degree he claims he wants to- therefore he is shutting down and calling my bluff so to speak. I don't know what else to call it.
He OFFERED to financially support me for an undisclosed amount of time, until I found a steady job and was able to rent a place of my own. We'll, I now have a job, and suddenly, when I tell him I want to start paying for some bills, he completely shuts down and says "why should I want to talk things over at this point?" And avoids talking to me both on the phone and face to face.  Then responds to my emails with biting remarks and accusations.
What did I do or say that was wrong? I guess I will never understand what happened. He has tunnel vision and cannot see anything positive with what I have done or plan to do. Neither can he accept that I am no longer a child that he can order to obey his requests, but a grown woman with a family that she is trying to reunite who has her own plans.
All I can do now is pray that he continues to get his health back on track and allows me to handle my family the way I know is best.

Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Been a while: Update.

Where to begin... I still need to find a place to live. :o(  I'm in a sticky situation that I feel powerless to change.

First: I got a job finally! I started May 28th, so I've been working a month now. Unfortunately right now I am barely getting 20hours a week. Hopefully that will change soon.

Second: I was planning on going to Mexico for Marie's elementary graduation which is on Friday, but things have made it difficult... my dad wants to sell the house and has since April. But he gave me an ultimatum too... if I wanted his help with the travel expenses I would have to move out of the house before he would give me the money for the ticket to go down. My aunt would give me the money to come back with the boys. And I am still in the house because I can't find a place to go to even temporarily. :o( THEREFORE, no trip from today until the 10th as originally planned. Marie says she understands, but I'm her mother.. I'm SUPPOSED to be there for her on things like this. *sigh*

Third: Since I didn't go to Mexico today as planned, I now have the trip scheduled for August 1-7. I will have to be back to work on the 13th. In the meantime, I need to find at least a temporary place to move to ASAP, so that I am no longer a burden on my dad. Here's where it gets sticky-  he won't talk to me, won't even help me. He long ago requested that we communicate by email, yet I have been sending him almost an email a week, and yet to hear back from him. I have updated him on what is happening and why I am not moved out yet. In the last email I got from him, he said "Email me when you have arranged to move, and then email me again when you have moved." That was it. :/  What can I do about that? And after that last email, he had come twice and started removing HIS stuff from the house, but has not been back since.  I feel helpless and lonely because the one person that was going to help me hasn't even answered any of my messages or contacted me at all in over two weeks, with the exception of a facebook message "what's happening with you , I haven't heard from you! I'm getting worried."  So I don't know why my messages have not reached that person...
Ugh, I'm just too stressed out to do things properly. On top of all this I have had severe lower back pain that quite a few of my friends think may be due to kidney stones. As if I need ANYTHING more to happen right now... *sigh* I've been trying to pack, but due to the pain I can't do much. :o(

Anyway, that's all I can say for the moment. I'll update more soon... I think I can blog mobile now too, so I will try and do that more often.- even if it is just quickie posts.